Saturday, December 21, 2013

A Melancholy Christmas

Of late, I have not seen my paternal grandson since October 23, 2013....almost 2 months.  And let me tell really stinks!  We have already missed out on Halloween and Thanksgiving this year and will be missing out on Christmas as well, due to visitation denial.
 My son and the mother were never I guess that the legal term for my grandson is illegitimate....born out of wedlock.  However, paternity was proven/acknowledged by signing documentation at the hospital....and on July 13, 2012 when he agreed to pay child support thru the court system.
These 2 families, both maternal and paternal...have gotten along for the past 5 years.  Very well, I might add.  We trusted each other at our word.  Agreeing to work together for the good of the his best interest.
My son makes weekly child support payments to the State Disbursement Unit here in Illinois.  Due to a payment NOT being put onto her "card" by the disbursement unit "in time"...the mother has denied visitation.  We cannot control the mail during this time of year...standard post can take up to 10 days to arrive even to the closest locations....nor can we control how long it takes the state to put the money onto a "card".  And in all honesty...I have looked thru all the court documents and found NOTHING that states a specific day or time that it has to be put onto a card.  I can only find a statement to the effect that he must make a payment within 7 days of his paycheck. I am wondering if her denial is legal, even tho there was no court ordered visitation?
My son and grandson
I have decided to keep a record, a file on all cashed checks which will prove that payment has been made.  Yes, I am aware that the state can also show proof they were made.  But I will have documentation as to when they were written/dated by having the document. 
The court referred them, my son and mother of the child, to mediation on Dec. 3rd.  The info packet, sent by the mediator was filled out and sent back. Still have heard nothing regarding a date/time for this mediation.  I am sure it will be after the holiday.  I really dislike the waiting game.
I have even looked online to see if perhaps my son could file a motion in the court for temporary relief for visitation...but the only thing I can find is for couples who were married.  Thank goodness he never married this gal. 
My 2 grandsons
I have been helping him in creating visitation and parenting plans this past week for him to use at has literally CONSUMED my daily activities.  I even created a calendar for the year 2014 which show a breakdown of days/weeks/months for visiting with total number of hours spent with the child per month.  Then I broke those hours down into actual days.  What a joke!!!  One month, I believe February, the actual number of full days he will spend with his child for one month is 5.3333 days!  The most actual "days" throughout one calendar month turns out to be 8.735 days.  I did this calendar for my son for visual aid for the mother.  It will hopefully show her that the time she agrees upon is very little.  But anything, at this point, is better than a 2 month VOID! 
I can promise you, that if this does not work out for my son...I will seek Grandparent visitation.  And I would be fine with one weekend per month...or even one day per week, providing it were a full day.
My 2 grandsons
This entire thing has been a nightmare, to say the least.  But it has made me realize that "a person's word is only as good as the person giving it"...and in this case...not so good.  It has given me a feeling of melancholy knowing there is nothing I can personally do about it.  We have talked about the entire situation and what to expect at mediation.  There are so many mistakes he could potentially make...and we don't want that to happen.  He does have rights...however limited.  I just hope those rights are reasonably and fairly addressed.  Fingers crossed!!

Friday, December 13, 2013

Round Head~My Favorite Annie~are DONE!!

Here are the 2 babies I made for a wholesale customer...this redhead is really NOT so red...darn flash!!

I LOVE doing this style of doll and can hardly wait to make round head bunny rabbits this upcoming season.

Today...I want to get something off my chest.

I detest winter...I realize it has to happen...I realize there is nothing I can do to change the fact that it is GOING to come regardless how I feel about it.  But, that doesn't mean I HAVE TO like it.  I just have to tolerate it.  

Yes, I live in northern Illinois...just 7 miles from the Wisconsin state line....cold temps accompanied by lots of snow is inevitable for these parts and I am fully aware of that fact...I have lived here for too long not to know it...
I also dislike how people wish for a white Christmas...that live right here in northernIllinois/southern
Wisconsin...PEOPLE...Christmas is going to come whether or not there is snow on the ground or not...and the snow just makes it more miserable.  LOL...that didn't sound right...but I am leaving it and will explain. 
When it snows...and the roads become snow turns into such a MESS...salted, cindered, slushy, slippery, and just a dirty ugly mess.  I hardly go anywhere if the roads are covered...and I have 4-wheel drive...which is "mandatory" here in Illinois...if you want to really go anywhere...LOL.  So, I have to wait to get fabric until the roads are completely clean...and free of that sloppy stuff...I don't mind them a bit wet from the salt...but I am not moving my hiney anywhere if there is snow on the road.   Honestly...I don't see what is sooooo pretty about dirty snow? It is my firm belief that the roads should have heating elements beneath them....ran by solar power...LOL...which would eliminate plowing, salting, and alot of road repairs. hahaha! VOTE FOR ME for Illinois road commisioner!  kidding!
Yes...I think that when frost freezes on the trees and turns them sparkly white it is very pretty...but that isn't is frost.  Anyway....enjoy looking at the White Christmas rant is over...LOL

Monday, December 9, 2013

Holiday orders are finally completed.

Yes, the title bears the truth.  I have finally completed all holiday orders and IN TIME for holiday arrival!  I finished the last 2 Sheldon the Elf last nite!  Now...this in no way means that I am completely finished with orders at all...I have some button eyed annies to work on this week with painted eyes...LOVE THOSE...and a few round head annies to do also.  And I love doing the round heads also.
It has been the best season imaginable!  And there was one point where I became completely overwhelmed back in November...didn't think I would be able to finish anything....became totally preoccupied with other things(I will talk about that some other time)....but I picked up this "train" and got it back on track.
I want to thank everyone for their continued patience with me.  And for your patronage!  It is greatly appreciated and it has been a pleasure working with each and every one of you!  Alot of you put a smile on my face when there was nothing but sadness!!!  And I appreciate that from the bottom of my heart.  I am very blessed and thankful to have all of you in my life! 

Saturday, December 7, 2013

I'm BACK!!!!!

I have not been on this blog in quite awhile...Didn't really think anyone was paying much attention to my overly boring posts.  I have been spending alot of time over on my facebook page...Anyone who is interested can friend request me page is pretty private as are my photos...  I have been doing a few different things since posting here.  You can check them out in these pics
 Pic #1 is my new pattern Itsy Bitsy Raggedies...they are only 14" from head to toe and are available as instant download in my Etsy shoppe .  Follow that link to view all available patterns as instant downloads for only $3.99.  The 2nd pic is my new Button Eyed Annie pattern which is also an instant download pattern. The 3rd pic is also a new pattern My Favorite Annie...also available as instant download. 
Thanks for reading!!!